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Leadership & Emotional Intelligence: The Secret Sauce to Success.

Updated: Dec 9, 2023


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The journey of leadership is multi-faceted, often demanding more than just technical know-how or strategic acumen. As the landscape of the workplace evolves, there's an increasing emphasis on emotional intelligence or emotional quotient (EQ) as a vital leadership trait. This week, let's delve into the symbiotic relationship between leadership and EQ, and uncover why it might just be the secret ingredient for leading effectively.


What is Emotional Intelligence (EQ)? At its core, EQ is the ability to recognize, understand, and manage our emotions while also recognizing, understanding, and influencing the emotions of others. It encompasses skills such as self-awareness, empathy, motivation, self-regulation, and social skills.


Quick question to test your EQ- Are you aware when you are angry or upset, and are you able to control your emotions in a corporate setting? If your answer is yes, you may have a high EQ, if you answered no, keep reading:)

The Connection Between EQ and Leadership:


  1. Self-awareness & Decision Making: Leaders with high EQ are acutely aware of their strengths, weaknesses, and emotional triggers. This self-awareness aids in making balanced, informed decisions without personal biases clouding judgment.

  2. Empathy & Relationship Building: An empathetic leader can put themselves in the shoes of their team, understanding their needs, concerns, and motivations. This fosters trust, loyalty, and stronger team dynamics.

  3. Self-regulation & Crisis Management: Leaders will inevitably face challenges. Those with high EQ can navigate crises with composure, ensuring teams remain calm and focused.

  4. Motivation & Vision Setting: EQ equips leaders with intrinsic motivation, helping them set a compelling vision and inspiring their team to rally behind it.

Why EQ is the "Secret Sauce":


  • Navigating Complex Dynamics: Modern workplaces are diverse and multifaceted. EQ assists leaders in understanding and navigating these complexities with grace.

  • Driving Engagement: Leaders with high EQ can tune into the emotional wavelengths of their teams, leading to better engagement, morale, and productivity.

  • Conflict Resolution: Instead of escalating issues, emotionally intelligent leaders can mediate conflicts, ensuring harmony within the team.

Boosting Your EQ – Tips for Leaders:


  • Active Listening: Pay close attention during conversations, focusing not just on words but also on emotions and non-verbal cues. Quick example here for leaders who work in a physical location, avoid the trap of the open-door policy conversation where a team member is in your office but speaking to your back or side because you are engrossed in your work.


For virtual leaders, avoid checking emails or other activities during on-camera meetings. Active listening requires focus.
  • Regular Self-reflection: Take time to introspect on your feelings, reactions, and behaviors. This can help identify areas for growth. Be brutally honest with yourself.

  • Seek Feedback: Constructive feedback can provide insights into areas you might overlook. Embrace it with an open mind. A practical way to do this is to embrace 360 reviews where your team gets an opportunity to offer constructive critique.

  • Practice Mindfulness: Techniques like meditation can enhance emotional self-awareness and help in managing reactions to stressful situations.

Closing Thoughts: While technical skills and experience are undeniably essential, the power of emotional intelligence in leadership cannot be overstated. It's the nuance that separates good leaders from great ones. As you continue your leadership journey, consider how EQ plays a role in your interactions and decisions, and remember that it might just be the secret sauce to your success.


About the Author Sharon Gill is the Principal of Sharon Gill International, a purpose-centered leadership development company helping executives and managers to lead their best. As an executive leadership coach, I combine a unique blend of corporate experience and faith-based insights. I help leaders not only excel in their professional roles but also align their leadership style with deeper values and beliefs. If you’re seeking purpose-driven leadership that merges success with spiritual growth, let’s connect for 30-minutes and explore how we can create a transformative journey together.

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